Overthinking is a learned thought pattern that exacerbates anxiety. Overthinking is exhausting. Although it feels helpful to continue thinking about the given problem or stressors it is ultimately unproductive. Over thinking and anxiety are not inherently wrong because the brain is wired to keep you safe and scan for evidence to validate perceived threats. However, overthinking becomes unhealthy when it causes anxiety and takes away from enjoying your life and acting according to your values. This post aims to help you identify your overthinking patterns and to provide you with tools to start reducing those patterns. 

Four Types of Overthinking: 

• • Rumination about the past

• • Worry about the Future

• • Over-analyzing decisions

• • Social Anxiety (for example: why did I say that? what did they think?)

OK, so let’s go through the skills!

One: Noticing and naming 

We are often not aware of our thought patterns, so we need to get skilled at identifying our thinking. Start intentionally becoming aware of overthinking and when you notice it simply saying, “I am overthinking.” You could also ask a loved one or therapist to call you out when they notice you’re overthinking.  

You can also learn your triggers by observing when you start to ruminate. What time of day? What people or situations get your brain going haywire? If you are struggling to notice your overthinking, you could set an alarm on your phone every hour and check to see if you are ruminating or how much you have been ruminating that hour. At this point you can begin tracking it, so you have data to use as your start point on your journey towards overcoming overthinking patterns. 

Two: Setting Limits on Overthinking

Now that you’ve become aware of your overthinking and are addressing your triggers you can start postponing or scheduling times to ruminate. This sounds counter intuitive but setting these limits sends the message to your brain to stop nagging you because you WILL address it. It teaches you that you have some influence over your worry. When you’re just starting out it is a good practice to schedule “worry time” each day for one month. You could schedule 30 minutes, for example, every day to address your worries. After those 30 minutes you can purposefully go back to what’s important to you. 

It is important to try and never worry in your head. You could write it down, record a voice memo, or video on your phone or computer. The point is to get it out of your head. Other tools you could try are writing a pros and cons list or using a brain dump. Scheduling worry shows your brain there’s a time and place for worry.  

Three: Attention Shifting 

Our brains are thought producing machines constantly sending us thoughts throughout the day. The good thing is we do not have to attach to or internalize every automatic thought. There is a deeper you underneath your thoughts. You are the referee. You can learn to separate yourself from your thoughts so that you can choose which thoughts you will buy into and which ones you won’t. You can start separating from your thoughts by practicing mindfulness or cognitive diffusion skills. 

Visualization is also a great tool. Try viewing your thoughts like channels on a TV. When you notice you’re on the worry channel visualize clicking the remote to change channels. This might look like shifting from fearing all the things you can’t control to focusing on thinking or doing one thing you can. This is a form of shifting focus and putting your attention on thoughts that better serve you. 

Another skill is turning your attention away from worry and towards the present moment.  This shift is from inward to outward. In any given situation when you are worrying you can return to what is directly around you. 

What can you see? Hear? Touch? Smell? What people can you look at? What are you feeling inside your body? Can you feel your breath?

Beyond your worry there is a world right there outside of you. The more you practice these skills the easier they become. 

Four: Learn to shift from Abstract thinking to Concrete Thinking

Oftentimes overthinking is aggravated by an unhelpful thought pattern called Over-generalization. Over-generalizations keep us thinking abstractly versus concretely. For example, “why can’t I ever get my needs met.” This type of thinking leads to self-loathing and helplessness. So, try and Avoid WHY questions “Why can’t I ever get better? why do I always do this? why do I overthink so much?” These questions do not lead to anything actionable, so we need to shift from why to what questions. For example, “what is one small thing I can do today for my mental health?” Instead of asking “Why can’t I ever succeed at relationships” you could ask “what is one relationship skill I can work on.” Once you are aware of your overthinking, have set boundaries on when you will worry, and have begun to separate from believing all your thoughts it is important you ask what questions. It is far more effective to pick one step to work on than to catastrophize and ponder the why’s of your life and your situation. 

Five: Shift from overthinking to your values

Before you can stop overthinking, you must know what you do want more of in your life. Instead of thinking, “I do not want to overthink” it might be helpful to try thinking “what do I want in my life.” Avoidance increases anxiety in the long run so instead of distracting (or avoiding) your unhelpful thoughts try shifting your thoughts toward exploring what you really care about. What is most important to you right now? What do you want your life to be about? Overthinking tends to isolate and decrease the vastness of one’s world. Getting clear on your values and what you want out of life is one step to reverse the withdrawing nature of anxiety. I hope these tools helped you. If you would like more support in overcoming your overthinking, feel free to book a free consultation with me. 

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Warmly, 

Shaundra McGuire, MHCI