Curated List of Supplemental Evidence-Based Resources for Couples
1. Gottman Resources, Tools, and Interventions
Books:
"The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work" by John M. Gottman and Nan Silver
A comprehensive guide on the principles that make relationships successful, based on Gottman's extensive research.
"The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships" by John M. Gottman and Joan DeClaire
Focuses on improving communication and emotional connection in various relationships.
Workbooks and Tools:
Gottman Card Decks
A series of card decks designed to enhance communication and intimacy. Available as a mobile app.
Gottman Relationship Coach
An online program that provides video lessons, exercises, and tools based on the Gottman Method.
Online Resources:
The Gottman Institute Website (www.gottman.com)
Offers a wealth of articles, blogs, and research on relationship health.
Gottman Blog
Regular updates on new research, practical tips, and insights into improving relationships.
2. Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT) and Attachment Styles
Books:
"Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love" by Dr. Sue Johnson
Explores the principles of EFT and offers practical exercises for couples to enhance their emotional bond.
"Attachment Theory in Practice: Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with Individuals, Couples, and Families" by Dr. Sue Johnson
A deep dive into how attachment theory can be applied in therapy to improve relationships.
Workbooks and Tools:
"Hold Me Tight Workbook: A Couple's Guide for a Lifetime of Love" by Dr. Sue Johnson
A companion to the book "Hold Me Tight," offering exercises and activities for couples.
EFT Exercises and Worksheets
Available through EFT-trained therapists and various online resources.
Online Resources:
ICEEFT (The International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy) Website (www.iceeft.com)
Provides resources, articles, and a directory of EFT-trained therapists.
Hold Me Tight Online
An online program based on the "Hold Me Tight" book, featuring videos and exercises for couples.
3. Nonviolent Communication (NVC)
Books:
"Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life" by Marshall B. Rosenberg
The foundational text on NVC, offering insights and practical steps for compassionate communication.
"The Surprising Purpose of Anger: Beyond Anger Management: Finding the Gift" by Marshall B. Rosenberg
Explores how to use anger constructively in communication.
Workbooks and Tools:
"Nonviolent Communication Companion Workbook: A Practical Guide for Individual, Group, or Classroom Study" by Lucy Leu
A workbook designed to complement the principles outlined in the NVC book.
NVC Practice Groups
Local and online practice groups that provide support and a space to practice NVC skills.
Online Resources:
The Center for Nonviolent Communication (www.cnvc.org)
Offers resources, training, and information on NVC.
NVC Academy (www.nvcacademy.com)
Provides online courses, webinars, and materials to learn and practice NVC.
4. Additional Resources for Couples
Books:
"The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate" by Gary Chapman
Helps couples understand and speak each other’s primary love languages to enhance intimacy and connection.
"Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence" by Esther Perel
Explores the dynamics of desire in long-term relationships and offers insights into maintaining passion.
Online Resources:
The Gottman Referral Network
A directory of therapists trained in the Gottman Method.
Therapist Directories (such as Psychology Today, TherapyDen)
Lists therapists specializing in EFT, NVC, and other evidence-based approaches.
Apps:
Lasting: Marriage & Couples
An app offering daily tips and exercises based on research to strengthen relationships.
Love Nudge for Couples
An app based on the Five Love Languages, helping couples improve their relationship through personalized suggestions.
These resources provide a comprehensive toolkit for couples seeking to improve their relationship through evidence-based methods, including Gottman interventions, EFT, and NVC. They can be used independently or in conjunction with therapy for optimal results.
By Elizabeth Mahaney, LMHC, MFT, NCC, DCC, Ph.D
SOUTH TAMPA THERAPY, WELLNESS, MARRIAGE & FAMILY THERAPY
Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Marriage & Family Therapist
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