Connect and Strengthen Your Life & Relationships
Couples and family members avoid conflict because they fear it will disconnect them. But the entire purpose of conflict is to create a deeper connection. Most couples and loved ones just don't know how to fight on behalf of the relationship.
What Problems can we Change and overcome?
Are you exhausted from fighting yourself and others and feeling lonely?
You feel criticized and blamed - you might even feel like you're walking on eggshells
Your partner doesn't listen to you
You feel lonely and unappreciated
Your sex life has lost the spark
You are struggling to trust and recover from past betrayals
You sense there is something wrong
You argue over pointless things, and end up bickering often
You have withdrawn or feel emotionally shut down
Your partner has angry outbursts, or is demanding
You feel attacked, like you can’t win, or nothing is ever good enough
Conflict becomes a catalyst for understanding each other, and creating a deeper emotional connection
You know what you need in each moment, in real time, and able to make positive change
Your needs are understood clearly and are met collaboratively
Old wounds are healed and trust is restored (this is critical if you've been betrayed)
You are able to make emotional sexual contact and enjoy intimacy
You both know how stop recurring fights before they escalate out of control
You feel deeply understood, heard, admired, and appreciated
You feel so connected that you're an expert on your partner and they're an expert on you
You have a strategy for intentionally making time for your emotional connection
You have the tools to solve any problem without additional support after relationship counseling.
We will meet virtually and privately.
You can call from anywhere in the world, use an internet connection and a computer with a camera, or a smartphone.
During our first virtual visit or call, we’ll assess what’s going on with you and your relationships and the vision you have for what you would like to see happen in your life. Then we’ll create a more customized treatment plan based on your needs and the needs of your significant relationships. We will then create specific and immediate actionable intentions to meet your goals to get you there fast.
I’ve created a transformational solution-focused approach that:
Helps hold you accountable for being AWARE of the changes you want to make.
Facilitates COLLABORATION regarding the AWARENESSES of things that could be better.
Create AGREEMENTS from the AWARENESSES.
Follow up to REFLECT and determine if the AGREEMENTS are working. If not, what are the obstacles? What is standing in the way of you being able to create the life you want to live? Let’s troubleshoot and CONTINUALLY FINE TUNE YOUR AGREEMENTS WITH YOURSELF AND OTHERS.
WE'LL CONNECT AND STRENGTHEN YOUR LIFE & RELATIONSHIPS IN 3 WAYS
Step 1 (To Do): Attune to Awarenesses
Awarenesses may start with researched assessments based on thousands of couples that will recognize cycles of conflict so issues can be stopped and transformed into moments for intimacy and connection. Receive a detailed analysis on your relationship style so you can turn your insecurity into opportunities for a deeper romantic bond. Miscommunication and disconnect happens when the lack of self-awareness could be part of the problem and partners don’t understand each other. My first task is to get you on the same page with yourself and loved ones. Let’s create a game plan and brainstorm agreements about how to start the process. This step can feel overwhelming but my goal is to help you focus and narrow down specific goals. We will approach the problems collaboratively with questions like: “How can life feel better?”, “How can each of you start positive changes intrinsically?”, “You are a subjective human and you can only feel and control you”. Therefore, all change happens intrinsically.
Step 2 (Doing): Attach to Agreements
Learn how to intentionally ask for what you feel and need in a way that gives your partner a way to express love. Create a culture of love and respect that builds trust and sexual passion. We will deal with perpetual problems, heal old wounds, and rekindle the spark of companionship together. Playfully explore ways to create a sexually fulling and passionate relationship. Let’s create more intimacy that brought you together in the first place, create new agreements that make life more enjoyable, and meet each other’s needs. I’ll offer you specific techniques, resources, interventions, tools, or activities that may work for you by brainstorming, collaborating, and developing the treatment plan together. I will also explain how to connect through communication by making specific actionable, immediately do-able, positive requests. Learn how to love your partner without losing yourself.
Step 3 (Done): Accountability for Lasting Change
I give you all the tools you need to understand what changes need to be made, avoid relapse and continue to build a meaningful relationship that gets better with time. I’ll also help hold you accountable for creating, trouble shooting, and maintaining sustainable intentional responses to “This Thing Called Life” and… changes along the way.