Self-Care: Nurturing Yourself Amidst Life's Demands

In today's fast-paced world, it's easy to put self-care on the back burner, especially when juggling multiple responsibilities and commitments. However, even in the midst of busy schedules, prioritizing self-care is essential for maintaining balance, well-being, and resilience. Here are some practical tips for incorporating self-care into your busy life:

Schedule it in: Treat self-care activities as non-negotiable appointments in your calendar. Block out time each day—even if it's just a few minutes—for activities that nourish your mind, body, and spirit. Whether it's a quick meditation session, a brisk walk outdoors, or a relaxing cup of tea, prioritize these moments as you would any other important task.

Keep it simple: Self-care doesn't have to be elaborate or time-consuming. Look for simple activities that you can integrate seamlessly into your daily routine. This could be as basic as taking deep breaths throughout the day to center yourself, practicing gratitude before bed, or indulging in a favorite hobby during your lunch break.

Multitask mindfully: While multitasking is often seen as a necessity in busy schedules, it can also be an opportunity to incorporate self-care. For example, listen to uplifting podcasts or audiobooks while commuting, practice mindfulness while doing household chores, or engage in gentle stretches while watching TV.

Set boundaries: Learn to say no to activities or commitments that drain your energy and detract from your well-being. Prioritize tasks that align with your values and goals, and don't hesitate to delegate or ask for support when needed. Setting boundaries around your time and energy is essential for maintaining balance and preventing burnout.

Practice self-compassion: Be gentle with yourself on days when self-care feels challenging. Remember that self-care is not about perfection but about making a conscious effort to prioritize your well-being amidst life's demands. If you miss a self-care session or feel overwhelmed, practice self-compassion and remind yourself that it's okay to prioritize rest and recharge.

Find creative solutions: Get creative with how you incorporate self-care into your routine. Look for opportunities to combine activities or adapt them to fit your schedule. For example, invite a friend to join you for a workout or meditation session, or turn your daily commute into a mindfulness practice by tuning into your surroundings and savoring the moment.

Start small and build momentum: If incorporating self-care into your routine feels overwhelming, start with small, manageable steps and gradually build momentum over time. Set achievable goals and celebrate your progress along the way. Remember that consistency is key, and even small acts of self-care can have a cumulative and transformative impact on your well-being.

Incorporating self-care into a busy schedule may require intention and creativity, but the benefits are well worth the effort. By making self-care a priority, even amidst life's demands, you can cultivate greater balance, resilience, and well-being, enabling you to show up fully and authentically in all areas of your life.

By Brianna Roskamp

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Inside Out 2 and Emotion Coaching Gottman’s emotion coaching is brought to life in the movie Inside Out 2.

If I could go back in time, I would relive my adolescence…(said nobody ever). Can you imagine? Reliving those awkward years where your teeth don’t quite fit your face, your skin betrays you, and your prefrontal cortex is far from fully developed? No thanks.

If you watched Disney Pixar’s “Inside Out,” which aired in 2015, you might remember Riley, the 11-year-old girl whose family had recently moved from Minnesota to San Francisco. There, we watched Riley experience emotions of Joy, Sadness, Anger, Fear, and Disgust as she navigated a difficult transition during a vulnerable time in her life.

And finally, the sequel is here.

In “Inside Out 2,” 13-year-old Riley is further along in her adolescence and must make room for some emotions that are a bit more sophisticated: Anxiety, Ennui/Embarrassment (my personal favorite–she’s a vibe), and Envy. As a therapist and a mother, I am HERE for the portrayal of emotions that are a bit more complex/secondary–because if you remember your adolescent years, you remember that everything was complicated, and emotions were most certainly magnified. And most of the support you needed at that time was not actually solution-oriented; but to be given the space to feel heard, seen, understood, and accepted during those intense experiences was everything.

As a mother of two teenagers, Liam (15) and Luci (14), who are my greatest teachers, I see firsthand the importance of this emotional space. Raising them has been a journey filled with lessons and immense love, and I cherish being their mom during this chapter of all our lives. It’s a beautiful and sometimes challenging time, but the growth and connection we experience together make it all worth it.

This is where Dr. John Gottman’s Emotion Coaching can be useful. The five critical steps of Emotion Coaching include:

1. Having awareness of your child’s emotion(s)

2. Recognizing your child’s emotional expression as a moment for connection

3. Listening with empathy and validation

4. Helping your child label their emotions

5. Setting limits to help solve problems and navigate difficult situations

When these steps are done with intentionality and curiosity, you are cultivating a foundation of connection, trust, safety, and security with your child. Your child feels seen and supported. They can take a breath and take space to recognize and honor their internal world and experiences, without external or internal judgment or criticism.

Making space for ALL the emotions

One of the scenes that stood out to me most in the film was the portrayal of Riley experiencing an anxiety attack. In that scene, we witness the physiological experience of anxiety–her racing heart, sweating, and intense cognitive rumination of who she is as a person. All of this is happening while, behind the scenes, Riley’s “sense of self” is threatened. This scene felt like a poignant and horribly accurate depiction of adolescence–a part of yourself that you don’t want to fully experience or share with others for fear of not being accepted. But the antidote to that is vulnerability–sharing that authentic part of yourself with others.

Another beautiful scene I resonated with in “Inside Out 2” is when all of Riley’s emotions, the primary and secondary, come together and physically (and figuratively) hold Riley’s “sense of self” while allowing her to fully experience all of the emotions, narratives, and thoughts she has. Instead of trying to control, they accept. And true acceptance of all of our parts is what we all crave and desire.

In summary, this quote from the film epitomizes Emotion Coaching in a nutshell: “We love all of our girl. Every messy, beautiful part of her.” If we make space and validate all of our emotions, every messy, beautiful part of ourselves (and our children), we can live fully and authentically.

By Elizabeth Mahaney, LMHC, MFT, NCC, DCC, Ph.D

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Staying Grounded: Tips from South Tampa Therapy on Clearing Your Mind

In a recent appearance on the nationally syndicated health and wellness show Bloom, Ari Leal, a dedicated therapist from South Tampa Therapy, shared invaluable insights with host Gayle Guyardo on simple yet effective ways to maintain mental clarity and stay grounded.

Embrace Physical Movement Ari emphasizes the significant impact of physical activity on mental health. It's not just about staying fit; even minimal daily exercise can dramatically reduce stress levels and boost your mood. Releasing endorphins through as little as five minutes of exercise a day can enhance your mental clarity and overall well-being. Whether it's a short walk, a yoga session, or a quick workout, getting your body moving is a cornerstone of a healthy mental routine.

Cultivate Creativity Engaging in creative activities serves as a powerful tool to keep your mind focused and present. Ari suggests incorporating practices like drawing, journaling, or playing a musical instrument into your daily routine. These activities help anchor you in the moment, diverting your thoughts from everyday stresses and channeling your energy into productive and fulfilling endeavors.

Connect with Nature Another key piece of advice from Ari involves the healing powers of nature. Stepping outside and immersing yourself in a natural setting can be incredibly soothing for the mind and body. The simple act of reconnecting with the environment helps regulate your nervous system, allowing you to clear your mind and focus on the sensory experiences around you—what you can see, hear, and feel.

Practice Mindfulness Mindfulness is more than a practice; it's a lifestyle change that involves being fully present and engaged with the here and now. According to Ari, mindfulness means concentrating on what you're doing at the moment, avoiding spirals of worry about things beyond your control. This practice can transform how you interact with the world, helping you appreciate every moment and reduce anxiety about the future.

These strategies from Ari Leal are not just tips but essential tools for anyone looking to lead a more balanced and grounded life. At South Tampa Therapy, we are committed to providing resources that help our community manage stress, understand themselves better, and enhance their quality of life. For more tips on mental wellness or to learn about our therapy services, visit our WHO WE ARE page or WHAT WE DO page to learn more!

Remember, taking small steps can lead to significant changes. Start incorporating these practices into your daily routine and observe the positive shifts in your mental state.

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Embracing Self-Compassion: The Path to Genuine Accountability

In the hustle and bustle of daily life, it's all too easy to become our own worst critics. We often believe that being hard on ourselves is the key to motivation and success. However, this self-critical approach can backfire, leading to feelings of demotivation, procrastination, and even harmful forms of perfectionism. Contrary to popular belief, self-compassion is a powerful tool that fosters genuine accountability and helps us align our actions with our values and goals.

The Demotivating Nature of Self-Criticism

Self-criticism often masquerades as a motivator, but it usually has the opposite effect. When we berate ourselves for our perceived shortcomings, it creates a negative feedback loop that can be incredibly demoralizing. This harsh inner dialogue can lead to:

• Perfectionism: Setting impossibly high standards and feeling paralyzed by the fear of not meeting them.

• Procrastination: Avoiding tasks because we are afraid of failing or not doing them perfectly.

• Low Self-Esteem: Constantly feeling inadequate and unworthy, which can sap our motivation and energy.

In essence, being overly critical can cause us to fall even further from our values and ideals, perpetuating a cycle of self-doubt and inaction.

The Empowering Force of Self-Compassion

Self-compassion, on the other hand, is about treating ourselves with the same kindness and understanding that we would offer to a friend. It involves three core components: self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness.

1. Self-Kindness: Instead of harshly judging ourselves for our mistakes and failures, we offer ourselves warmth and understanding.

2. Common Humanity: Recognizing that suffering and imperfection are part of the shared human experience, reducing feelings of isolation.

3. Mindfulness: Observing our thoughts and feelings without over-identifying with them, maintaining a balanced perspective.

By integrating these elements into our lives, we can foster a healthier, more supportive inner environment.

How Self-Compassion Enhances Accountability

Self-compassion doesn’t mean letting ourselves off the hook or ignoring our responsibilities. Rather, it encourages us to be honest and accountable in a loving and supportive manner. Here’s how:

1. Reduces Fear of Failure: When we know we will treat ourselves kindly, even if we fail, we are more likely to take risks and pursue our goals without the paralyzing fear of making mistakes.

2. Promotes Self-Awareness: Self-compassion allows us to acknowledge our flaws and mistakes without self-condemnation, leading to greater self-awareness and personal growth.

3. Sustains Motivation: Kindness and understanding boost our intrinsic motivation. We are driven not by fear, but by a genuine desire to improve and succeed.

4. Encourages Persistence: With self-compassion, we are more likely to persevere in the face of setbacks because we see them as opportunities for learning rather than as definitive failures.

Practicing Self-Compassion for Future Success

Self-compassion is, in essence, an act of self-love that extends to our future selves. When we practice self-compassion, we are investing in our long-term well-being and success. Here are some ways to incorporate self-compassion into your daily routine:

• Practice Self-Compassionate Dialogue: Replace negative self-talk with supportive and encouraging words. For example, instead of saying, "I can’t believe I messed up again," try, "It's okay to make mistakes. I can learn from this and do better next time."

• Set Realistic Goals: Break down larger goals into manageable steps and celebrate your progress along the way. Acknowledge that setbacks are part of the journey and use them as learning experiences.

• Mindful Self-Reflection: Regularly check in with yourself. Reflect on your actions and decisions with curiosity rather than judgment. Ask yourself how you can support your growth and well-being.

• Self-Care Practices: Engage in activities that nurture your body, mind, and spirit. This could be anything from physical exercise to meditation to spending time with loved ones.

By fostering self-compassion, we hold our future selves in mind, creating a foundation of kindness and accountability. This compassionate approach not only helps us stay motivated but also ensures that we remain aligned with our values and aspirations, leading to a more fulfilling and successful life.

In the end, self-compassion is not about making excuses for ourselves; it’s about creating a supportive inner environment where we can thrive. By treating ourselves with kindness and understanding, we cultivate the strength and resilience needed to achieve our goals and live in accordance with our highest values. So, let’s embrace self-compassion and unlock the true potential of accountability.

By Chelsea Reeves, MFT-I 

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Trusting the Process: The Right Mindset for Therapy

What happens when you come into therapy, the first session has ended, and perhaps things don’t feel any better? It can be hard to walk through the process of therapy when we don’t know what to expect or how to cope with the moments that feel hard. What we anticipate from therapy shapes how we perceive and interpret our sessions. Our beliefs about therapy, our therapist, and the effectiveness of the process have a big impact on our experience of it. 

I hope this article brings you reassurance, empowers you to fully engage in therapy, and inspires hope as you navigate your own unique journey. Therapy holds immense value and can indeed serve as the catalyst for the change you seek. I believe these three shifts in perspective can help you develop a mindset that will enable you to get the most out of therapy.

1.     Embrace the Power of Expression

Often, we underestimate the profound impact of having a dedicated space to express ourselves freely, without fear of judgment. While our loved ones may offer support, they might not always possess the necessary tools required to fully understand our experiences. Your therapist is trained to fully immerse themselves in your perspective, offering a safe haven for you to share openly. This commitment is unique because, often, people may not know how to create the supportive environment you deeply desire. It's empowering to acknowledge that you have this sanctuary and someone who is adept at empathy, validation, and impartiality. Simply having a safe space to express can be incredibly therapeutic—it allows us to release pent-up emotions, process our thoughts, and receive the support we crave.

2.     Communicate If Something's Not Working

At times, there might be thoughts lingering in your mind that feel challenging to share with your therapist. If something isn't working or doesn't feel helpful, don't hesitate to discuss it openly. Sharing these concerns can help your therapist better understand your needs and tailor the treatment plan accordingly. Bring forth your fears, worries, and genuine emotions to your therapist—they are equipped to handle it and can provide the support you require. Whether it's frustration over the perceived slow progress or other difficulties, sharing these emotions with your therapist can offer them the opportunity to guide you through them. Occasionally, we may encounter less-than-ideal experiences in therapy where we don't feel properly cared for. This can be deeply disheartening and shake our confidence in the therapy process. However, I encourage you to give therapy another chance. Not every therapist will be the right fit for you, and that's perfectly okay. But remember, this doesn't reflect negatively on therapy as a whole. Therapy can be effective and transformative if you're committed to it. So, consider this your reminder to persevere, even when the journey feels challenging or doesn't meet your expectations. It's also okay to take a break from therapy and return when you're ready. I like to think of each therapy session as planting a seed. While we may not witness immediate growth, with time and nurturing, we can observe positive changes blossoming in our lives.

3.     Give Therapy the Time It Deserves

Therapy isn't a quick fix; it's a gradual process that unfolds over time, sometimes more time than we'd prefer. It's essential to remember that your therapist is human—they can't read your mind or predict your experiences. Making assumptions based on past experiences, whether theirs or others, can be harmful. Each individual is unique, with distinct needs and layers that require exploration. Your therapist needs time to understand who you are and what you're going through fully. They must carefully process and conceptualize your experiences to offer effective support. So, if progress seems slow, remember it's a sign that your therapist is approaching your care with diligence and consideration. Rest assured that even if issues aren't resolved immediately or the first strategies provided don't seem effective, change takes time. There's hope and power in the therapeutic process—real transformation occurs when we deeply understand and connect with the insights gained. Your therapist's role isn't to overwhelm you with information but to guide you toward self-discovery and growth collaboratively. Trust in the process, and with patience, positive change will unfold.

Written by Chelsea Reeves, MFT-I 

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Therapy for Anxiety & Depression in Tampa

Seeking therapy for Anxiety & Depression?

Consider Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT) offered by Dr. Elizabeth Mahaney, a South Tampa Counselor and Therapist specializing in these concerns. We use this in combination with several other evidence based approaches.

Depression and Anxiety often coexist, and they stem from different focuses. Depression dwells on the past, fostering thoughts of regret and helplessness. Anxiety, on the other hand, fixates on the future, causing worries and stress.

Both conditions share a commonality: they pull attention away from the present moment. Mindfulness, the practice of being fully present, can shift this focus.

By dwelling on the past or worrying about the future, you miss the beauty of the present. Mindfulness is about anchoring yourself in the here and now, appreciating life's moments.

I'm here to guide you away from fixating on past regrets or future worries and lead you toward embracing the present moment.

Contact/ Text me at (813) 240-3237, and together, let's alleviate Anxiety and Depression from your life.

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Acceptance and Commitment Therapy

Clients engaging in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) with Dr. Elizabeth Mahaney at South Tampa Therapy and her team learn to embrace their inner emotions instead of avoiding or struggling against them. The therapy emphasizes acknowledging these emotions as appropriate reactions to specific situations, rather than impediments to living the desired life.

ACT, a mindfulness-based therapy, targets the root cause of emotional distress. Human nature inclines us to evade negativity and uncertainty, but this avoidance can compound into greater harm. This therapy helps individuals confront these challenging emotions, fostering the ability to live in the present and make conscious choices about life's priorities.

Expect ACT to address a wide array of conditions, including relational issues, anxiety, depression, chronic pain, and obsessive-compulsive disorder. Dr. Mahaney focuses on enhancing six key skills throughout the therapy:

1. Defusion: Stepping back from thoughts to prevent immersion or entanglement in them.

2. Openness: Allowing emotional pain without necessarily embracing it, counteracting avoidance.

3. Present moment: Being mindful of sensory experiences in the current moment.

4. Self as Context: Understanding oneself independently of struggles or narratives.

5. Values: Identifying important aspects that drive choices and actions.

6. Committed Actions: Making choices aligned with one's core values in various situations.

Strengthening these skills through ACT aids in managing thoughts, emotions, and behaviors, reducing emotional distress. Incorporating mindfulness into daily life facilitates living in alignment with personal values and leads to a more meaningful existence.

To embark on this transformative journey with ACT, book an appointment with Dr. Elizabeth Mahaney at South Tampa Therapy.

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TAMPA (BLOOM) – Therapist Kaitlin Lowey of South Tampa Therapy joined Gayle Guyardo

Therapist Kaitlin Lowey of South Tampa Therapy
joined Gayle Guyardo the host of the global health and wellness show Bloom to share ways to bring confidence into everyday situations.

Therapist Kaitlin Lowey, from South Tampa Therapy, recently appeared on the global health and wellness show "Bloom" with host Gayle Guyardo. During the segment, Lowey shared valuable insights on how to cultivate confidence in everyday situations.

Therapist Kaitlin Lowey, from South Tampa Therapy, recently appeared on the global health and wellness show "Bloom" with host Gayle Guyardo. During the segment, Lowey shared valuable insights on how to cultivate confidence in everyday situations.

"Confidence, derived from a Latin word meaning 'to trust,' is about believing in yourself, recognizing your inherent worth, and having faith in your ability to handle life's challenges," explained Lowey.

She emphasized that genuinely confident individuals exude a magnetic quality because they embrace their true selves. They acknowledge their strengths, manage their weaknesses, and firmly believe in their significance, regardless of whether they fit society's standards of intelligence, attractiveness, or social prowess.

Lowey also pointed out that, often, individuals hinder their own confidence.

"We can be our own biggest obstacle when it comes to confidence. We carry around certain core beliefs like 'I should,' 'I can't,' and 'I'm not worthy.' Let's dissect these," she urged.

Lowey provided three key areas to focus on in order to bolster confidence:

1. Addressing "I should": This belief often stems from unhealthy comparisons and manifests as thoughts like "I should know how to do this" or "I should be more confident." Lowey encouraged individuals to challenge these notions, emphasizing that each person's journey is unique. Comparing oneself to others is like transplanting a rainforest vine to a desert and wondering why it's struggling. Instead, acknowledge your strengths and recognize your own superpower.

2. Confronting "I can't": When we've faced setbacks or failures, we tend to adopt a mindset of "I can't." Lowey recommended replacing it with "I won't" to acknowledge it as a choice. Then, delve into what's holding you back. Ask probing questions like "What am I trying to avoid?" This often reveals old wounds that need healing. Identify your needs and wants to shift from a stagnant state to one of hope and action.

3. Challenging "I'm not worthy": Society often imposes external criteria for measuring our worth, but Lowey advocated detaching from these expectations. She emphasized that we don't need to be everyone's cup of tea, as not everyone shares the same taste. Instead, embrace what makes you uniquely valuable and worthy. Your distinct qualities contribute positively to the world. When you allow your authentic self to shine, you attract the right people and opportunities while inspiring others to do the same.

In summary, Lowey's insights provide a powerful framework for cultivating genuine confidence and embracing one's authentic self. Trusting in your worth, acknowledging your strengths, and letting your true self shine can lead to meaningful connections and opportunities.